Stop Replaying That Interview in Your Head
"I know I said it wrong... should I email them and clarify my answer?" ... Why your interview remorse happens (and how to make it disappear forever!)
If you’ve ever walked out of an interview replaying every single word you said, this one’s for you!
A few weeks ago, one of you DM’d me something I’ve heard hundreds of times:
“I had a job interview last week and hated the way I answered one of their questions… Should I email the interviewer and clarify what I meant?”
And I get it. I’ve been there.
That post-interview spiral where your stomach sinks and your brain becomes a highlight reel of every awkward phrasing, half-formed thought, and “oh gosh WHY did I say THAT!” moment…
I call that interview remorse.
And honestly?
It’s one of the most emotionally destabilizing parts of the job search.
If you’re on the job search, this is what you’re going through:
Getting from application to interview is stressful and complicated enough.
Then you get IN the interview - and it turns out that’s incredibly stressful, too.
But the after? In my experience, it’s after the interview that breaks people.
Not because the interview went poorly, but because of the uncertainty and the loop that’s happening in your brain.
Questions like:
Did I overshare?
Did I sound too junior?
Was it too rehearsed?
Did I talk too much?
Or maybe I didn’t say enough??
Ugh, what if that one answer cost me the job?
Maybe I should just email and fix it?
Or maybe not…. does that make me look desperate?
But maybe desperate is good? It shows that I care…
If you’ve ever had this post-interview experience, take a seat and a deep breath.
We’re unpacking all of this today: ⤵️
Here’s what’s ahead for paid subscribers only:
The psychology behind interview remorse: why it happens and how to stop it
Whether you should email and “fix” your answers (the real truth)
Why interview remorse isn’t a problem
How to follow up after an interview the right way
The step-by-step fix to eliminate interview remorse forever
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